If It Was Not for Honour, Trust Would be Such a Distant Thing
Honour and Trust are noble ideals. In the past they were traits that were so respected, so desired; traits to which people endeavored to achieve. Unfortunately, in today's society and especially in personal relationships, the concepts of Honour and Trust are nearly extinct.
However, there are those who still hold on to these traditional values. The ideals of Honour and Trust still exist, they will never truly disappear. It is up to the BDSM community to lead the way back to the growth of these noble ideals.
A true BDSM relationship that is based on the nurturing of Honour and Trust in both partners can set an example to the community, and slowly begin the progression of Honour and Trust throughout society.
An opinion that I have that the world should take notice of: As in no other relationship, Honour and Trust are essential parts of a thriving BDSM bond. If you cannot Honour and Trust your partner, then there is little hope for having a successful, loving and fulfilling BDSM relationship.
"If a slave lacks honour, they most likely also lack the capacity to give trust, and the worthiness to receive trust. Is not an honourable person a more trustworthy person?"
Trust goes along with Honour, and Honour with Trust. In the BDSM lifestyle, these ideals are intertwined. And these traits are built through communication.
In BDSM there needs to be an open, trustworthy and honest line of communication. If communication is lacking then things can go wrong...and when things go seriously wrong there can be dire consequences, from the end of a loving relationship to even suicides. If you truly love yourself and your slave, protect yourself and protect them. Make sure there is a continuous communication that is working towards building a strong foundation of Honour and Trust.
I cannot emphasize enough that Honour and Trust are always vital essential parts of a successful BDSM relationship. It works like a simple safeguarding system within the bond; one that is not dependant on an outside party to make the judgement calls, but instead each person is being honest and truthful, both to themselves and to the other(s) involved.
If honesty and truthfulness are traits that you have difficulty with, or do not even desire to work towards achieving, then you need to rethink entering into a BDSM relationship. Communication and honesty, and truthfulness in the communication, will form the strong basis for Honour and Trust.
To build this necessary base takes time.
Again, communicate !!
Share ideas, ideals, thoughts and emotions.
Talk freely and extensively about needs, wants, desires and fears. Do not be afraid to laugh together and share your dreams. Negotiate and be open minded.
Honour and Trust are not things that will be, or can be, very easily obtained. It will take patience and lots of effort. In short, it takes work and dedication. The time it takes to build this base will vary with each individual relationship. In a BDSM bond, the ultimate gift of honour and trust comes when you can give yourself over to someone without any fear.
I do not mean that you need to just feel comfortable, but you really must be able to Honour and Trust that person basically with your life.
If this feeling is missing, the relationship cannot blossom to its fullest glorious potential. Also, Honor and Trust are very powerful assets and to place them in the care of the wrong person can be dangerous mentally, physically and emotionally.
If you find you cannot build this base of Honour and Trust with your BDSM partner, there is a huge problem forming. However, if you can Honour and Trust the partner in your relationship, there is an unbelievable marvelous love forming.
Let your beautiful loving relationship based on Honour and Trust, shine a beacon of light through the community. Have the strong relationship that others can see and feel, that they respect, and wish to obtain in their lives.
"Give it a try...the reward is a happiness that permeates your entire life."
"Have fun! Because this type of relationship makes life great !!"
"Enjoy your freedoms !"
©Reigen Du Coly
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